One of my friends asked me the other day, “Katrina, what are the mental enemies of success?” It started off as a simple conversation where we were giving each other updates about our families and businesses, and then she hit me with this. And if you have learned anything about me by listening to my other episodes, you know that when someone asks me a question like that, I have to think and then provide what I would consider at least a somewhat reasonable answer, right? 🤣
So let me tell you what I shared with her. I think that mindset is everything when it comes to success. In order to be successful, you have to already believe you ARE successful. Think about the times that you have been successful in your past. From starting your business, to getting that promotion, asking someone out on a date and them saying yes, getting the grade on an exam, making it onto a sports team. The example doesn’t matter, the point is that you accomplished it because you believed you COULD!
For me, I tell myself that I can and I have. Like Tony Robbins says, you have to believe that you have already done it. Your mind doesn’t know the difference between reality and fiction. So if you believe it, it’s real in your mind. So believe that it is true. Believe that you have already achieved the success, and then you will.
So what happens when you believe that you have succeeded? Well, it helps your mind focus on getting it done and STAYING successful. Remember, you are already successful in your mind so there is no “don’t let me fail” mentality it’s more of a “keep winning” mentality. Because of that, there’s no room for the mental enemies to creep in.
What are the mental enemies? Things like self-doubt, overwhelm, perfection. I’m sure you can list at least 2 or 3 more but those are the big ones for me.
So how do you believe you are already successful in order to ward off the enemies of success? I simply establish what success looks like. I establish a realistic goal of what success is for a given situation. When I started Legend I told myself that success would be when I started running ads to educate people about Legend and how we can help them. I created timelines around when it would happen, realizing that there was a lot of work that had to be done in order to launch the ads. I kept the timelines fair but tough, I mapped out the work that had to be done in order to launch the ads, and each day I went to work.
How did I do that? I did it with a source of pride because in my mind, I was already successful. All I had to do was tell people how I was going to impact their lives. I was already good at doing it, I had already done it successfully in the past, and I established a reasonable vision of what success was relative to launching Legend. So I got to work and believed I could and quite frankly, I believed I already had.
The other action I took, and Tony Robbins says you should do this as well, is I made myself experience the excitement, the pride, the joy, and the exhilaration of having officially launched my business to the world. I did this before I officially achieved success. In other words, I anchored my success in feeling those emotions as a means of driving me forward. Each day I felt those emotions and used them to help me to continue to BE successful.
So what are you struggling with relative to your success? Sit down today and establish what success looks like. Feel all of the emotions related to that success. Wake up each day telling yourself you HAVE succeeded. Do this so that the mental enemies have no chance to creep in and take over. Watch yourself thrive as a result.