Does your circle challenge you or silence you?
I talk about your circle regularly because it is said that you are the sum total of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Now, in this pandemic world, I don’t know that you spend time with 5 people. You may only spend time with 3 people. Either way, you are the sum total of those that you spend the most time with.
As you continue to move through 2021, and given that we are sitting firmly in the 3rd month of this year, you should be working diligently to achieve your business goals. But the reality is if we are the sum of the 5 people we spend the most time with, are those 5 people helping you get there?
It’s like you telling your best friends you want to lose 5 lbs but they keep trying to feed you cake at every turn. You would see that as an obvious blocker to your goal of losing 5 lbs.
My question for you today is are you seeing the obvious blockers when your current circle throws them in front of you? Now, I am hoping as I go through these scenarios you are like, “Nope, my circle is strong. They push me, they challenge me, they tell me when I can do better, they hold me accountable to my targets, they celebrate me, and they push me.” I want that for you. We all need that type of circle.
But what I see most commonly is women trying to keep their old circle of friends while changing into someone new. And unfortunately that old circle of friends, that circle doesn’t like the changes you’re making, they don’t understand the changes, they don’t support the growth and the business venture. So they are offering you cake when you are trying to lose 5 lbs.
They say things like, “I know you said you were going to spend the day doing XYZ but come hang out with us instead. You know you would have more fun. Or, you know it can wait, you’ve had a hard week.” While all of that may be true, your friends need to help you stay focused and support you in achieving your goals.
So who are your 5 people? Are they focused on the same things you are? Are they holding you accountable in a positive way? Are they pushing you to take uncomfortable action?
If yes, go appreciate your friends. If not, the reality is that you are going to quickly realize you need a new circle. That doesn’t mean you remove your friends from your life completely. It simply means you need a circle that understands what you are going through and how to deliver so when you need to talk about business, goals, and accountability, that’s your circle. When you want to relax and have fun talking to just friends, you go back to your current circle. You can have more than one circle!
And here’s the deal, the circle we are creating at Legend Leaders is open to you. We are The “Too Much” Tribe. Because being too much in the corporate world is just right in the entrepreneurial world. Come join the group that was made for you! Go to Facebook and search Legend Leaders. Or you can find us @legendleaderslife on Facebook.