This month we are focused on helping you create your “And Life.” As corporate executives, we have a life full of achievement and success. We have worked diligently to earn this life and yet when we reach our late 30s/early 40s, we realize that something is missing. We also want fulfillment. How do we get it? How do we create an “And Life” of both achievement and fulfillment? We’re not quite sure, but we do know the life we have right now is causing us to feel trapped.
It sounds crazy. To the outside world, you have it all. You have a life most people envy. The success, the high-paying job, the status, the money, the house, the car, the family, the kids who are smart and talented in sports, art, music, or all of the above. People look at you and think, “I’m sure she’s just living her best life.”
But is that your reality?
Deep down you know that you’re not living your best life. Far from it. Because you have realized over the past few years that success and fulfillment (or happiness) are not the same things.
You see, when we were kids we were told that we could have it all; a successful career, a beautiful family, and a happy life. But no one taught us HOW to have it all.
We were told to get good grades, get into a good college, get a good job, have a nice family, and buy a good house, and that when we did all of those things, we would have happiness.
However, over the past few years, we have realized that being successful isn’t making us happy. Because we have done all of those things and yet the voice in our head is saying, “Seriously, this is it?!”
Success makes you feel secure, it makes you feel good that you can provide for your family, but it doesn’t make you feel fulfilled and happy.
How do we start to feel fulfilled? We need time back in our day to start exploring this part of ourselves. We are ready to stop giving everything to our careers. We want our time back. But then the fear sets in. We honestly have no clue what we can stop doing at work and what we must keep doing to maintain our level of success and security.
The idea of pursuing changes that could jeopardize our careers is unthinkable. We’ve worked too hard! We have already sacrificed so much! And, we also can’t be selfish and damage the income that helps support our families.
These negative emotions, combined with the lack of clarity on what actions we must take in order to maintain our careers has us trapped.
Do feel trapped right now?
Are you tired of sacrificing every part of yourself and your life for your career and yet living in a place of uncertainty as to how to maintain what you have and create fulfillment and happiness?
Are you thinking, “Maybe this next promotion will result in happiness?”
Here’s the truth, it won’t.
It’s time to acknowledge what you already know, success doesn’t equal happiness.
The first step in getting happiness is to believe you deserve it. Then you must acknowledge the fact that you have done nothing wrong on your current path to “cause” this. There is no failure here, only growth.
If you want to create your “And Life,” it’s time to take the first step and understand why you feel trapped.