Making Legendary Leaders

Another common question I get, because those of us who have worked in the corporate world understand this very well, that most of our friends are also in that same world.   Because we live similar lives, that’s how we became friends in the first place.  As you start to become a different person, you are going to start looking for new friends.  So today’s question is: when leaving my corporate job, how do I find a new inner circle?

Here’s the deal, you can be friends with anyone.  Period.  Anyone.  But if you are friends because you shared the common experiences and could talk about work as your bond, then no you won’t be able to do that anymore in your friendship.   You’re going to be on a path of becoming a different person, which means you won’t share the same concerns, fears, or worries.

That may sound crazy but it’s true.

You are going to be a new person because you are going to grow, change, learn, adapt, and become the woman who runs a million dollar plus business. You have to become that woman.

Because of your growth,  your current circle may not get it, may not recognize you, may not want to get it, or want support you.  Now here’s the deal, don’t sweat that.  You are becoming the person you were meant to be!

Remember, your friends are probably being the people they are meant to be I would expect.  If you want to still be friends and they don’t, so be it.  If you don’t want to be friends anymore, so be it. Decide what you want, have the conversations you need to have based on what you want, and keep moving forward.

The point here is that you are going to become a very different person, because again, you have to.  And the topics and events that bonded you don’t exist anymore.  The things you supported each other on, vented to each other about, etc. won’t be there anymore.  Because of that, and because you still need a group of women who are going through the same experiences you are, most women want a new circle.    

Not only should you want a circle, you need one.  Entrepreneurship is a lonely road, because each day you are forging a brand new path.  So find a new circle.

Find facebook groups.  (We have one here at Legend Leaders.  Come join us.  We will support you!)  Start with finding circles on social media.  Be active in those groups. Find other people doing what you are doing, just like you did in the corporate world. 

We all need the support.

Be Legendary!

Today we are going to focus on the next most commonly asked question when women are trying to step out of the corporate world into the entrepreneur world: How do I get my spouse on board?

What a great question!  Seriously.  That’s another fear that many of us face. 

Ultimately, you have to believe in what you are doing.  If you aren’t certain this is what you need to do, if you don’t believe this is your path, no one else is going to believe it either.    Not your spouse, your best friend, your mom, no one.

So, first and foremost you need to believe.

Second, you need to go and tell your spouse this is what you want, why you want it, what it means, how you think you want to do it, etc.  You have to be ready to tell your spouse what you are going to change and why it matters to you.

You don’t need to ask for permission.  Don’t set yourself up, saying “I’m going to ask my spouse.”  NO!  You are going to “talk WITH” your spouse.  Big difference.  You are a grown woman.  You don’t need permission.  You need a partner in this process.  So talk to this person like a partner, not a parent.

Mindset is everything, remember.  So go in confident, certain this is your path.  You don’t have to be certain as to HOW you are going to do it all. But  you do need to be certain this is your path and be certain as to WHY that’s the case.

Be Legendary!